3 Easy Steps to Get Back Your Self-Confidence

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Sometimes life hits your self-confidence really hard. The circumstances you find yourself in may be challenging and overwhelm you. Sometimes your courage and self-confidence pull through. Sometimes your confidence takes a beat and becomes low.

The one thing to always remember is that “Nobody can hurt you without your consent.” The situation isn’t as critical because of its impact on you, rather the impact that you let the matter have on you. In life, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional because the saying goes. It’s purely your choice, and whether you select to recover or suffer is entirely your prerogative.

There are many reasons why your self-confidence gets hurt.  You were bullied in your childhood, and it left a mark on your confidence. Maybe your parents or schoolmates belittled you and constantly compared you to others. Perhaps you’ve been on the receiving end of racial discrimination. As a result, you have internalized some negative messages about your capabilities, wondering whether you “belong.”

These experiences can hurt your self-confidence. But you do not necessarily need to suffer because of them. You can rise and get back your self-confidence.

Read What Fear of Heights Taught Me and How I Overcame

The following easy steps will you do exactly that.

3 Easy Steps to Get Back Your Self-Confidence

#1 Look on the brighter side

There are two sides to every coin. It could be that you are experiencing one side of the coin that is hurting your confidence, but the other could be an opportunity for you. If you’ve been laid off from your job, it’s okay to feel bad about it. Losing employment may be a terrible thing, but it doesn’t mean the top of the planet. Who knows, it’d be a blessing in disguise.

Maybe you’ve got a while to review your life, get conscious of where you’re going, have a glance at your likes and hobbies, which you’ll not develop due to the pressures of your job.

Maybe this is often a chance to start afresh and live your life in a replacement way that is more in sync with your abilities and aptitude. Similarly, a divorce may cause great pain; on the other hand, you were not too happy in your marriage either.

It probably was just not meant to be. Now you’ve got an opportunity to rebuild your life the way you would like it to be.

Also Read Top 30 Daily Affirmations For Wealth

#2 Stop comparing yourself to everyone else

When we have a problem, we always question God – “Oh, God, why me?” Certainly, God gave you tons of rewards also, right? Did you then rise and ask God -“Oh God, why me?”This is what attribute is all about.

We complain and remember God once we are in trouble; alternatively, we are too busy with ourselves. Stop watching people who seem too happy and cozy to you from a distance. Stop comparing their comfort with your suffering. This may only frustrate you more and cause you to be unhappy.

Focus on yourself and make every effort you’ll take time out to do something to cheer you up whenever you’re feeling down. Self-pity is extremely addictive and capable of destroying lives. Rather than indulging in self-pity (though we all do from time to time), take hold of your life, take responsibility for your actions, learn from your mistakes, and make a clean slate. And yeah…don’t get caught up when

you hear a “NO.”

“NO” is something even the greats like Edison and Ford faced. If you look at it positively, you’ll find that out that every “NO” actually takes you closer to a “YES.” It has been reported that Edison conducted a thousand failed experiments before he made an electrical bulb!

So get going and take the occasional no without becoming upset.

Don’t stand in your own way

You will notice that shadows are caused once we substitute the trail of sunshine. In our lives, too, we cause tons of shadows by standing in the way of our own happiness.

In today’s world, it’s important to be flexible. Many individuals will search for employment for months yet still reject work coming their way because they’re not willing to adapt to some new job requirements. Marie, a schoolteacher, was laid off from her job.

She kept trying for months to urge employment as an educator while rejecting opportunities like taking private tuitions, being a nanny, doing copy-editing work as a freelancer.

The long wait hurt her self-confidence even more.

Sometimes, it’s good to be a touch flexible and adapt ourselves to new job demands instead of looking exactly for what we lost. It helps to regain confidence quickly, bringing enough energy to urge a good, better job within the field of your choice!

20 Confidence Quotes to help you believe in yourself

What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.

— Bruce Lee

It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.

— Oprah Winfrey

If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.

–Vincent Van Gogh

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

– Lucille Ball

With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.

– Dalai Lama

Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

— Golda Meir

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.

– Venus Williams

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

— Peter T. Mcintyre

A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.

— Mark Twain

We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?

— Marianne Williamson

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

– Suzy Kassem

To anyone that ever told you you’re no good … They’re no better.

— Hayley Williams

Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.

— Richard Bach

We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

— Roderick Thorp

If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.

— T. Harv Eker

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Confidence is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, arrogance is when you think you are better than others and act accordingly.

— Stewart Stafford

The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.

— Blake Lively

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